If you would like to connect better with others, you must improve your conversation skills. Dale Carnegie, in his book How To Win Friends & Influence People, points out that allowing people to talk about their interests is crucial to becoming a good conversationalist.
Let’s be totally honest, people like to talk about the things they find interesting. As a person who is wanting to become better at conversations, your job is to listen and ask good questions.
A byproduct of good listening skills and good question asking is that it makes the person you are speaking to feel valued. Everyone has value. The problem is that a lot of people don’t really feel valued. By taking the time to really listen and show interest in a person, you are telling them they are worth your time. And if you tell someone they are worth your time, your chances of really connecting with him goes up significantly.
People want to feel valued. In order to help people feel valued, you must time the time to really listen to them and ask good questions. When you listen intently and ask good questions, you are helping a person feel valued. Doing this will help you become a better conversationalist.
How have you experienced a good conversation?